Fleshlights might seem simple enough, stick your penis in, take the penis out, repeat until orgasm. While yes, this is an oversimplified way of putting it, it is… overly simplified. Surprisingly, there’s a lot more to learn in order to get the full experience than you’d expect. As with any device, there are beginners who will use it as a basic masturbator, the intermediate who play around with the controls and features, and the experts who know everything about it and exactly what settings they want.

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As I’ve already said, it seems simple enough. Fleshlights come in four different unique orifices: vagina, rectum, mouth, or a nondescript hole. It’s easy to put two and two together and realize that a penis is meant to be pushed into and pulled out of any of these options for amazing pleasure.

The textures inside do their job, as you do the minimal effort of thrusting in and out. But honestly, there is so much more to it than that, and you’re really missing out if that’s all you’re doing!

Whether you’re a new user or an intermediate player, get out a notebook and pen and prepare to learn something new about your favorite masturbator. I plan on teaching you everything there is to know about how to use a Fleshlight like a pro.

I’m going to cover everything from warming it up, to control over the amount of suction. I’m about to go over some of the best tips to get the best possible experience from your favorite Fleshlight.

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The Basics

One end of the masturbator comes off to expose the orifice of your choice. This leads into a variety of chambers that feature a variety of textures meant to simulate the user into a euphoria of pleasure and… eventually, an orgasm. Fleshlights are made with SuperSkin, a patented material only used by Fleshlight and is designed to feel like a real human being.

The other end of the Fleshlight features a cap that controls the suction produced when thrusting into the device. When the end cap is completely fastened onto the end of the device, the suction will be at it’s tightest and most intense point. This setting creates a lot of noise, almost like a sloppy blow job.

When the cap is loosened, the suction decreases according to how loose the cap is. It’s important to experiment with the end cap to find a setting that works best for you!

Cleaning & Maintenance

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The worst part and biggest con of using a Fleshlight is the cleanup. The simplest way to clean this device is to remove the sleeve, give the case a good wash, and then set aside about 10 minutes for the sleeve to dry.

I recommend using unscented, dye-free cleaner and warm water. You have to ensure that you get every nook and cranny, and usually, there are a lot of places for lube and bodily fluids to hide. Give it time to dry out and then give it a good shake of talc powder to keep it from getting tacky.

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As far as the basics go, that’s it. Now, let’s get to the juicy stuff!


#1: Warm It Up

Fleshlights are meant to simulate the feeling of being with a real woman, sadly they are cold and clammy when used alone. Without warming up the sleeve first, the masturbator will feel like a freezing cold vice around your poor shaft. There are a few methods for warming up a Fleshlight, and all of them are delightfully easy.

The first method is also the most simple and inexpensive. Remove the sleeve from its plastic casing and submerge it into a bowl of warm to hot water for a few minutes. When it is heated to your liking, slip it back into the casing and go at it. This method works for warming it up as well as lubricating it, but it can be messy and takes a good bit of time to prepare – which is not ideal if you’re in a hurry to get going.

Another method is to buy the Fleshlight Sleeve Warmer, which is a rod that can be inserted into the end of the toy and used to heat the toy from the inside. This method is more effective and takes less time. Fleshlight created this device after hearing that Fleshlight users wanted a cleaner way to warm their toys. This method doesn’t lubricate the sleeve, but instead, it allows you to use your own lubricant. 

Don’t be the guy who makes SuperSkin soup by microwaving your Fleshlight!

#2 Lube It Up

Nothing is going to feel like the real thing if it’s dry and dragging across your skin as you attempt to stroke with it. Lubing up your Fleshlight will take you to the next level of pleasure. Just be sure you’re using the correct lube for your Fleshlight, as some can damage the integrity of the sleeve, creating little pores and trapping bacteria in the sleeve. 

Thinner lubes allow you to feel the intricacies of the internal design but will need to be applied more often. Thicker lubes may dull the sensations you feel during use but will last longer, prolonging the experience.

Water-based lubricants are the best for Fleshlights. Silicone and oil-based lubes may cause damage as mentioned above.

I recommend Fleshlight’s Water-Based Lube as it is formulated with their material in mind, it’s the only real option for lubing up your masturbator.

Getting Down to Business


Most people use Fleshlights manually, by hand, the old fashioned way with attachments. This is how 99% of first time users opt to get off the first time with their Fleshlight. To get set up for this method, warm it up, lube it up and insert your penis. Once your penis is inserted, adjust the end cap to the desired suction level. Once you have the desired suction, begin thrusting or use your hand to stroke the device over your erect penis. 

The fantastic thing about this method is that you can control the angle, speed, and adjust the suction as needed. Considering the weight of the Fleshlight, this method can become very strenuous. Even smaller versions, like the Quickshot Vantage and Sex in a Can, while lighter and tighter, can become too much to for longer sessions. 



If you find manually stroking yourself to be bland, the next step would be to go hands-free. There are many ways to achieve this, a couple of which are free! 

These first two are free and easy to set up. You can use two pillows and a towel to create a doggy-style type device to hold the Fleshlight in place and go at it. Drape the pillow along the top of the pillows and wedge the end of the device between the two pillows.

You can also wedge the end of the Fleshlight between your mattress and box spring to hold it in place. There is a third option for thrusting, you can purchase a shower mount from fleshlight and fasten it to any flat surface. 

If you prefer not to do any thrusting, there are devices you can purchase from Fleshlight that will do all the work for you. The Fleshlight Launch is a toy that was created in partnership with Kiiroo, it is by far the most customizable hands-free device available. This is a football-shaped device where the Fleshlight is inserted, strokes per minute and length per stroke are customizable via finger control. There are also a ton of other methods in which this can be controlled, but you can read more about that on my review.

There is also the Fleshlight Mount by Liberator, which is a piece of sex furniture with a hole for the Fleshlight to mount into. This is less like the Launch and more similar to the pillow method mentioned above. There is an entire section of the Liberator website where they offer a variety of mounts for Fleshlight. 

Final Thoughts

While your first time using a Fleshlight might start with ripping the packaging apart and diving in headfirst (pun intended) and ending with a sticky mess, your every experience with Fleshlight products doesn’t have to be the same.

There is more than one way to enjoy this wonderful, well-known brand. My absolute favorite feature is the ability to increase or decrease the suction. Regardless of what has brought you to the wonderful world of Fleshlight, I hope you leave this article with more tips and tricks to enhance your pleasure. 

Whether you choose to go at it manually and gently tilt the product for different angles or to load up the Launch and let it fuck you silly, using a Fleshlight should never be a bland experience. You can use it at room temperature or warm it up for a more realistic experience.

Lube will give the Fleshlight wetness similar to that of “natural” wetness found with a woman. Using the Launch or a similar product will give you the ride of your life, just how you like it. Warm it up, lube it up, and go to town!

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Tugger Cox is a man's man who doesn't shy away from testing the latest and greatest sex-related products available for men. Think of him as your own personal sex toy guinea pig. He does all of the "hard work" testing toys and products to educate men around the world on which products are worth buying and which should be avoided.


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